The most recent card I viewed gave me pause. It asked a question - "Where have you found Peace"? So I asked myself, "where have you found peace Cheli"? Good question. As I pondered on my answer, I lifted the card to reveal the following card and it asked another question -
"What do you want to let go of"?
I thought to myself, these two questions go very well together - What do you want to let go of? Where have you found peace?
It felt like Serendipity. Serendipity because I shuffled these cards prior and yet here they were, right where they needed to be.
Once I identified where I've found peace, I understood in order to keep the peace, I had to let go of the things that were defeating my access to peace. It's all up to me you see. I can either be my best friend or my worst enemy.
I should Invest more in the things that bring me peace and less in the things I would rather let go of. Until there is more peace and less grief.
It starts with taking my power back. The power to give myself more of what I need to thrive, and less of what I don't.
And everyday, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, "This is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this! And each day, it's up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, "No. This is what's important". - Iain Thomas
Give Yourself Permission Slips
If you've been given others the power to determine how you feel about each given day and how you create and define your life, it's time take your power back. The right to self-care should be defined by you and you alone. Misplaced power can be hard to get back. Hold on to it.
I give myself permission to self care - Everyday
I give myself permission to invest in my lifestyle
I give myself permission to smile and laugh without apology
Reassign Your Energy
Take away all the energy you've placed into your "Pandora' s Box" - the place were past trauma, betrayal, fear, lost confidence, and self - sabotage lies. It is a poor investment and a thief of peace. Instead, assign that energy towards your "Palace". Your happy place. The place you've built carefully and intentionally to hold all of the good things, the brave things, the meaningful things, the present and the future dreams.
Do More Of The Things That Make You Happy
You know what they are. You've done them before. You remember what it felt like. You promised yourself you will do them again. But somehow you let the world around you control your direction and you forgot the promise you made to yourself. Write down all the things that have ever given you joy and peace. Something as simple yet meaningful as a daily afternoon walk. Remember your promise and do more of those things. The goal is not perfection. The goal is consistency.
Invite Prayer and Meditation
I find peace in praying to my Father. I first say thank you. Gratitude is a mood lifter. It reminds me of how absolutely well taken care of and blessed I am. It eliminates depression and elevates a "can do" spirit. Because I know what is possible, I move forward in confidence. I ask that His will be done. Because I am aware of all He has brought me through and all that He has helped me survive. My faith in Him is stronger than my faith in worldly things.
Start your day with a prayer of gratitude. Keep a gratitude jar/journal. Remind yourself of all the good things, and move forward in confidence.
Choose an Accountability Partner
Your accountability partner is here to reinforce all the steps you should be taking to maintain your goal of inviting peace into your life. They are here to remind, reinforce, cheer, and encourage you. They cannot be your "Yes Man". They are the truth tellers. So choose wisely.
Stop Living For The Weekend
Everyday is a blessing and a gift. Resist the urge to drag yourself unwillingly through the weekdays as you eagerly anticipate the weekend. Live authentically and creatively everyday. Yes, you can got to the movies on a weekday. Yes, you may go hiking on a weekday. Yes, date night can be on a Wednesday and you can have a breakfast meet up on a Monday. Every new day is a gift.
"And at the end of the day
your feet should be dirty,
your hair messy
and your eyes sparkling"